StillMama Blog

Continuing a relationship with my beautiful daughter spiritually 5 years after her death.

What’s a secondary loss? It represents all of the losses that come after the primary loss. This could be the loss of marriage, friends, family, career, and ...

As Harper’s 4th birthday approaches I have come to realize that grieving mothers don’t “move on.” Moving on means that I have come to terms with the fact tha...

I am going to go there. I am going to talk about the thing that no one talks about because to me, it’s THAT important that its discussed. I wanted to be st...

Do you have people in your life that you want to make proud? I really don’t. My parents have always been proud, and their pride isn’t based upon my achieveme...

The holidays are hard. They can be filled with so much joy, but if you are missing someone you love, especially if its early in your journey, they can be bo...

It took me years, literally years, to even contemplate moving from Pennsylvania for Mike’s job. Every time he would bring up relocation (which was at least ...

After Harper went to Heaven, I couldn’t get this thought out of my head… “I don’t want this life.” This is just not how I ever envisioned my life – living wi...

This question is so natural. It’s the first question everyone asks once you tell them your child has died. I have been asked to recount Harper’s death more...

Harper has been a busy bee as she has blessed us with another pregnancy. A beautiful child to love and cherish for the rest of our lives. While we apprecia...

I often reflect on what my children have taught me, as they have all taught me different things. Today though, being Harper’s 3rd birthday in Heaven, I can’...

No, it was not the occasional iced tea you would treat yourself to during your pregnancy that caused you to lose your baby. It was not the daily latte, or t...

People often assume they know things they actually know nothing about. Losing Harper has taught me to never, ever pretend to know anything about a situation...

My sweet rainbow baby just turned one. ONE year of having her to love and cherish on earth. I always knew she would make her way into our family, but I had...

There is something so incredibly beautiful about the parents I have met and talked to who have lost a child to stillbirth or early infant death. It’s hard t...

Still, almost 3 years later, I have trouble following my “gut.” I had always listened to my inner voice, and allowed that to guide me through life. All maj...

Our society is not comfortable with someone else’s pain. We are taught to help someone overcome pain as quickly as possible. If you see someone crying, our...

For the past two years, I have been working as a healthcare marketing consultant. Choosing this path for my career has allowed me to meet so many new people...

I remember waiting for the day when the pieces of my life would start to go back together instead of feeling like a bomb had exploded and the pieces were eve...

The holidays are filled with so many emotions that it’s hard to know where to start. There’s joy and gratitude for what we have, and there’s pain and sadness...