StillMama Blog

Harper has a way of always showing up to tell me I’m on the right path. Always. We were vacationing here in Washington where we live now...

I haven’t written in a while, but it’s not because I stopped honoring harper or stopped helping women through their loss. It’s the total...

I am fortunate to have the most amazing friends in the world. I only want the best for them, and I want them to have everything they want in

Continuing a relationship with my beautiful daughter spiritually 5 years after her death.

What’s a secondary loss? It represents all of the losses that come after the primary loss. This could be the loss of marriage, friends,...

As Harper’s 4th birthday approaches I have come to realize that grieving mothers don’t “move on.” Moving on means that I have come to...

I am going to go there. I am going to talk about the thing that no one talks about because to me, it’s THAT important that its discussed....

Do you have people in your life that you want to make proud? I really don’t. My parents have always been proud, and their pride isn’t...

The holidays are hard. They can be filled with so much joy, but if you are missing someone you love, especially if its early in your...

It took me years, literally years, to even contemplate moving from Pennsylvania for Mike’s job. Every time he would bring up relocation...

After Harper went to Heaven, I couldn’t get this thought out of my head… “I don’t want this life.” This is just not how I ever envisioned...

This question is so natural. It’s the first question everyone asks once you tell them your child has died. I have been asked to recount...

Harper has been a busy bee as she has blessed us with another pregnancy. A beautiful child to love and cherish for the rest of our lives....

I often reflect on what my children have taught me, as they have all taught me different things. Today though, being Harper’s 3rd...

No, it was not the occasional iced tea you would treat yourself to during your pregnancy that caused you to lose your baby. It was not...

People often assume they know things they actually know nothing about. Losing Harper has taught me to never, ever pretend to know...

My sweet rainbow baby just turned one. ONE year of having her to love and cherish on earth. I always knew she would make her way into...

There is something so incredibly beautiful about the parents I have met and talked to who have lost a child to stillbirth or early infant...

Still, almost 3 years later, I have trouble following my “gut.” I had always listened to my inner voice, and allowed that to guide me...

Our society is not comfortable with someone else’s pain. We are taught to help someone overcome pain as quickly as possible. If you see...